Category Archives: Thoughts

What is a House? What is a Home?

What is a House? What is a Home? Is there any difference between the two or these two are the same thing? Have you ever thought of how a house differs from a home? Let’s figure it out in this blog.

Love begins by taking care of the closest ones – the ones at home.

Mother Teresa

A house is a makaaan (in Hindi) and a home is a ghar (in Hindi). There is a saying in Hindi “मकान ईट पत्थर का बना होता है और घर उसमें रहने वालों से बनता है”. Translated in English “A house is made up of bricks and rocks and a home is made up of the people living inside it“.

In 2011, I came across a beautiful poem on this topic that I would like to share with you all today. The poem is “A House, A Home” by Lorraine M Halli.

What is a House? What is a Home?

What is a house?

It’s a brick and stone and wood that’s hard.

Some window glass and perhaps a yard.

It’s eaves and chimneys and tile floors

and stucco and roof and lots of doors.

What is a Home?

It’s loving and family and doing for others.

It’s brothers and sisters and fathers and mothers.

It’s unselfish acts and kindly sharing

and showing your loved ones

you’re always caring.

Lorraine M Halli

No one can deny that this poem is true and lovely. Each word of the poem reflects the true feeling. House remains a house until someone makes it a home. The people living inside the house, make it a home.

Building a house can be easy but making a home needs patience, courage, love and dedication.

My acrostic poem on HOME is as follows:

H = Happy to live in with

O = Our family members

M = Making sweet memories and

E = Enjoying every moment of life.

What is a House?

A house is a structure made up of bricks, wood, stones and cement. The more money you spend on making a house, the more beautiful and magnificent it can be. A house may or may not have people living in it.

What is a Home?

A home is the most comfortable place to live in this entire world that provides you the feeling of security and love. It can be big or small, but it hardly matters. What matters is the love, happiness, care and the memories of the people living inside a home.

A house is not a home unless it contains food and fire for the mind as well as the body.

Benjamin Franklin

Attributes That Make a House a Home:

Before being a home, a home is always a house. To make a house a home many attributes play a role. The attributes that really makes a house a home are as follows:

  1. People: People are the most important attribute that makes a house a home. The people here includes the family members such as mother, father, parents, children, etc.
  2. Love: After the family members, the second thing required for a house to become a home is love. Without love between the family members, a home cannot be a home.
  3. Happiness: Happiness is also a requirement for a house to become a home. A happy family makes a happy home.
  4. Food: Smell of delicious food coming out of the kitchen is what makes a happy home. I cant forget how much I missed my mom’s food when I was in hostel during my post graduation studies. Food also connects family members to each other.
  5. Security: Sense of security and feeling safe inside a house also makes it a home. A house which does not provide security cannot be the best homes.

There are other attributes too like a cozy place, furniture, a warm and clean bathroom, spacious bedrooms and living rooms that are important for a comfortable home. But to make a house a home, a house does not need to be spacious and humongous. A small cozy house with favorite people residing, spending time together, loving and caring about each other is what makes a happy home.

Home is where the heart is.

Pliny the Elder

Those who have spend some part of their lives living in a hostel or traveling for long time, can really understand how important a home is. We long for our favorite spot inside our house. We long for the food of our moms. We long for the warmth and coziness of our homes.

I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.

Maya Angelou

Learning From the Pandemic 2020

East or West, Home is the Best. At least this is what we learned this year, the Pandemic 2020. House is the best place, that protects us from visible and invisible enemies. We feel more secure in our homes than anywhere else.

What is your thought on this topic? Do you agree with the poet? or Do you have other take on it? Please share your views in the comment section. I would love to know.

I would like to end this post with a funny quote that I found on home. I hope you will like it too.

I told my mother-in-law that my house was her house, and she said, ‘Get the hell off my property.’

Joan Rivers

Happy Home Happy Living.

Inspiring Quote

Today, when I was reading this classic book “Three Men in a Boat” by Jerome Klapka Jerome I was really heart felt by the thoughts of the author. It is so well written that I though it’s worth sharing. So here is the sentence.

Throw the lumber over, man! Let your boat of life be light, packed with only what you need—a homely home and simple pleasures, one or two friends, worth the name, someone to love and someone to love you, a cat, a dog, and a pipe or two, enough to eat and enough to wear, and a little more than enough to drink; for thirst is a dangerous thing.

Jerome Klapka Jerome (Three Men in a Boat)

Isn’t it interesting and inspiring? I read it 5 times and I liked it so much. We are always so greedy that we always want to have more and more when actually what we want is always enough for this life. But the greed of having more and more always keeps us thirsty.

I hope you like it. Thank you for stopping by and reading this post.

Happy Reading 📖.

Acceptance: It’s Important

How many times do you feel that it’s hard to accept the reality of life? How many times do you feel that acceptance is the most important thing in life?

Yes, the more we accept the things the way they are, it is easy for us to lead our lives. Acceptance is important. We should accept the way we are. We have flaws, fine, no problem, this is the way we are. Let’s acccept is.

To err is human and we are humans. We make mistakes but it’s important to learn from the mistakes. It’s important to accept that we have made a mistake and then try to fix it or mend it in all possible ways.

The keys to patience are acceptance and faith. Accept things as they are, and look realistically at the world around you. Have faith in yourself and in the direction you have chosen.

Ralph Marston

If I talk about myself, I am not in accepting the random changes that take place in my life. I am a person who like peace and stability in life. I don’t like a life full of randomness and surprises. I like simple, easy going, relieved kind of life. But life is not about what we like. Life is all about what life wants from us.

So, I am not always ready to accept the surprises that life throws on me and thus I feel sad many times. It takes time for me to accept the changes, but I do accept the changes because I don’t have any other go. Sometimes I feel that I waste a lot of my time, days and energy in consoling myself to accept the changes, which is not at all good. The sooner we accept, the better.

I have seen that people who accept the way they are, who accept the reality of the world, who accept the way life is, they are happier and more hopeful.

Acceptance is no where related to liking or disliking. It’s about accepting the people the way they are. Sometimes we have differences with our parents, our in laws, our kids and even our partners. Once we understand that the other person is different from us, and there is no choice but to live with that person because we love that person, we tend to accept that person, the way he/she is.

The hardest thing to accept is the loss of someone very close to us. We know that the person is not going to return to us by any means but our minds and hearts are not willing to accept this truth.

Acceptance is not only of life, and self. Acceptance is also of emotions, experiences and even people.

Accept the way you are.

Accept the way I am.

Accept the way life is full of ups and downs.

Accept the unexpected, you never know what future brings us.

Let’s learn to accept. Let’s bring acceptance in our lives. Let’s practice acceptance in day to day life.

What do you think we can do to bring acceptance in our lives? Do you agree with me that acceptance is important? Please let me know in the comment section. Your thoughts are always welcomed.

Stay happy and stay fit.

A New Book and Memories

How do you feel when you get a new book or a notebook or a diary 📔 or a journal 📓? Do you have a habit of smelling a new book or a notebook?

Yesterday, I took a new book that was gifted to my son on his birthday by one of our friends. I began to flip the pages and smelled the pages too. Wow, such a nostalgic feeling. It took me down the memory lane, during my school days when we used to get new textbooks and notebooks every year. Those days were really the best days of my life.

Sniffing through the pages of a new textbook always felt like heaven. Today, I felt the same, had the same feeling. So, I thought of sharing this wonderful feeling with you all.

Now moving on to the New Book. This new book is a story book that contains 365 bedtime stories. Some stories are really short and quick read while others are long stories.

Name of the Book: 365 Bedtime Stories

Publisher: OM Kids “An Imprint of Om Books International, 2014”

The most interesting thing about this book is that you can derive morals from each story. So the stories teach the kids new thing and since the stories are short, you can read one story at night to your kids.

All kids are fond of stories of angels, monsters, fairies, dinosaur, etc. My kids like to read stories that are related to animals and plants. The favorite story of my kids is “Who Has The Longest Tail?”. This story is about the animals living in the jungle that decided to have a competition of the longest tail. They decided that the one animal who has the longest tail will be declared as the King Of The Jungle?

Can you guess, who was declared as the King Of The Jungle? Do you also like reading short stories and short story books? I do like reading children story books just for a change and it’s really fun to read children books.

Happy Reading 📖.

Disclaimer: All rights are reserved by the publisher of this book. This post is just meant for sharing my personal thoughts regarding this book. No intention are made to violate copyright laws.

It’s Okay, I’m Fine.

We always hear people saying, I’m okay when they are not. We also do the same when we aren’t willing to share our true feelings to others. I feel, we being human have various emotions that constantly change with time.

We may be very energetic and excited in the morning and feel bored or clueless in the night. These days, social media also plays a role in our sadness and happiness. There are people who are hardly affected by social media posts, messages and news. I think in today’s world, they are truly blessed.

So, we humans have emotions and we express them or we don’t. It depends where we are and with whom we are. Sometimes we have a false mask covering our faces that doesn’t show our actual emotions.

If I talk about myself, I am great in masking my feelings in public. I know how to and when to hide my emotions and true feelings. I think, it’s ok until and unless I am not harming anyone.

I think,

It’s sometimes Okay not to be Okay.

It’s Okay to Feel bad.

It’s Okay to be Sad.

It’s Okay when things are not the way You wanted.

It’s Okay when someone is not listening to You.

It’s Okay to be angry but it’s not okay to hurt someone.

It’s Okay to Have a Bad Day.

It’s Okay to Have Mixed Emotions and Feelings.

It’s absolutely Okay the Way You are. You are Perfect.

How many times do you say I’m okay, when you are not? That’s absolutely fine. We have ups and downs in our lives. And it’s fine.

What do you think about this? Do you agree with me on this? Do you agree with the quotations I shared here? Please let me know about it in the comment section below. Your thoughts are always appreciated.

Happy Father’s Day

I know, I am late today but I wished my dad “A Happy Father’s Day” yesterday. Since I am married I wished my Father in Law, the same.

To all the awesome fathers out there, I am sorry I can’t discriminate, I wish you all a very Happy Father’s Day.

Fathers do a lot for their kids and family. I sometimes feel their feelings, their love and they themselves are underrated. But today I want to say that, parents are the pillars of our foundation.

My Dad and Mom

Fathers should be equally praised as mothers. Being a mother, I know no one can ever beat the love or even come closer to the unconditional love of a mother but being a daughter and a daughter in law I feel fathers are equally important.

I don’t remember when was the last time or even the first time my father ever scolded me. I was such a darling daughter and I am still so much loved by my parents. He always stood by me.

I still remember my father dropping me to my college even when I was a lecturer there. He would pick me up to and from the college. I still remember the long talks I used to do with my dad when I used to come from my hostel during my post graduation.

I still remember my dad waiting outside the examination centers when I prepared for medical exams and CSIR NET exams.

I am thankful to my dad for always being my support system in every possible way. I know he knows how much I love him.

Now moving on to my father in law, he also supports me a lot. He encourages me to do what I like to do. He gives me full freedom in making my own choices. I am grateful to him for having faith in me and always standing by my side to support me.

I am blessed to have two awesome fathers in my life.

My Dad (on left hand side) and My Father-in-law (on right hand side)

Next is my husband, who is an awesome father of two wonderful kids. I think that we grow and learn many things as parents and I see many changes in my husband after becoming a father. Kids love him a lot and so does he. My kids are still small to express their feelings about their dad but they made special cards for him.

My Kids with Their Dad

The main idea behind celebrating any special day is to give recognition to that person and say thanks to that person. Be it Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Brother’s day or Sister’s day, it’s only a wonderful way to express our feelings and gratefulness towards them.

Let’s celebrate each day with joy, happiness, and compassion. Let’s celebrate each and every relations we have in our lives.

At last I would like to wish all the fathers, a very Happy Father’s Day. May all of us always have the love and blessings of our parents with us.

I wish good health, happiness and blessings of Almighty to all the fathers. May God bless all of us.

Thank you so much for stopping and sharing my post.

Learning Never Ends

Learning is an ongoing process and we can learn at any age. For people who are the real learners, age is not an issue.

Actually we learn everyday. Learning can be academic or non academic. It’s not important what we are learning, it’s important that we shouldn’t stop learning.

So, I believe, learning should never end. We should keep learning. Learning should not stop.

Learning keeps us growing.

Learning keeps us motivating to learn more.

Learning keeps us updated.

Learning keeps our minds young and active.

So, what are you learning these days? I would be glad to know about in the commention section.

Happy Learning and Blogging.

Be A Human First

Ups and downs are parts of life. We know that change is the only constant. People learn to adapt and survive in the change. But I don’t know what is happening in the world this year. So many changes, negativity all around the globe.

Starting with the Pandemic 2020 to the deaths of people all around the world, descrimination on the basis of ethnicity and color, and many more negative news surrounding us, I don’t know what else are we going to witness this year and in the years to come.

Whether it’s a natural catastrophe or any other casualities, who you think is responsible? Humans and only humans…..don’t you think? The masterpiece of the God’s creation has not stood up to the mark of His expectations.

What do you think we are lacking? In my opinion, we are lacking being a HUMAN. First and foremost thing that we lack is “Being a Human”. We need to be a human first before trying to be anything else.

What traits come to your mind when you think about being a human? What differentiates a human from an animal? I feel, I understood it very late. We humans lack many traits that we are supposed to have.

Traits of a Human Being: Here I would like to highlight some of the qualities of a human being. Apart from the physical differences from any other species in the animal kingdom, Homo sapiens are blessed with many inevitable characteristic features.

1. Humans have the mental ability to think, to differentiate betweeen right and wrong, to understand and decide, and to have an opinion.

2. Humans have a way of communication in the form of languages, can read, write and express their feelings to others.

3. Humans have the ability to think, and act according to the situation.

So, basically humans can learn new things, think and act, look for favorable situations, decide and have opinion. We certainly do think and act, learn and decide. But how wisely we think and how wisely we react defines whether we are a good human being or not.

Humans get social, have friends, make connections, show compassion, have emotions, etc yet become insensitive to issues that are not related to them.

In today’s world of social media, do you think twice before sharing any post on any social platform? I think most of us don’t. Many of us share so many usual, unusual things on our social accounts without getting the facts and news verified and it’s like a chain reaction. Once it starts it continues and only a wise person who thinks before sharing, stops a while to think, verifies the news, thinks about the morality of the post and then stops the chain of spreading that news.

I know overthinking is not good but thinking is good. To think is the ability of a human but sometimes we lack this trait. We act without thinking about the repercussions of our act. I experienced this yesterday itself but I am reluctant of sharing that with you all.

Humanity which is derived from a Latin word that means human nature and kindness is what we are lacking in ourselves. We don’t want to or even bother to understand what the other person is saying and we react. We don’t think that how badly the act of mine can affect a person. We have become insensitive to basic human issues. The kindness that we are expected to have is missing in thoughts, acts and opinions.

I just want to conclude this post by saying that we need to be a human first. We need to learn about the traits of humans and treat others as humans too. We need to be respectful to others .

These are my thoughts in all forms. You might agree with it or disagree. I will consider both types of opinions in my comment section. I would request you all to show some kindness to others, spread positivity and stay healthy.

Namrata

Random Thoughts

We all are different. Let’s celebrate it. How about having only one color in a color pallete? How about having all dresses of just one color. Differences make us unique.

As we are different from each other, our tolerance level, intelligence level, understanding level, and many more psychological factors differ.

We differ from each other. We differ in color, race, demography, and ethnicity. We differ in so many ways. Yet we are similar. We are Humans. God’s finest creation, as it’s said. And life, one of the most precious gift from God.

In Hindu religion, it is considered that, to take birth as a human is a very precious thing and it takes hell lot of rebirths to reach this level. Your past deeds, certainly the Karma decides whether you will be a human or not.

My knowledge on this might not be perfect but this is what I hear from my elders that human life is precious.

So precious a life, full of ups and downs, beautiful and bad memories, shouldn’t be ended without the will of God.

We generally give importance to the outward, physical appearance, to the physical differences like color, demography, ethnicity. We never talk about the psychological differences. No one ever taught us how one person can differ from another psychologically.

Why one person is an introvert while another is an extrovert? Why a person weeps while watching an emotional movie while the other just enjoys it?

We are never taught that different people need different treatments even at home. A child might ask for a 100 hugs and kisses in a day while another can be just satisfied with one or two.

Why human psychology is not given importance? Why people do not study paychology in schools and colleges?

Why moral science is important to be taught in the schools and not psychology? Why we aren’t taught how to attain inner peace and happiness? Why we aren’t taught that success and failure go hand in hand?

Why we aren’t taught that it’s ok to cry, it’s ok to screem out when angry, it’s ok to feel low sometimes, it’s all ok until you are alive.

Everything can be sorted out. Every wound can heal. Everything will be ok. We only need to have patience. Every knot can be opened. Every hole can be mended. But only when we are alive.

Why we always compare ourselves with others? I can do this why can’t you? I can learn this, and why can’t you?

I also took long time to realise this and still learning. We need to teach our children that people differ in their thoughts, actions, and behaviour. We need to make them understand that money, fame, etc are that not important. We need to teach them to be happy in what they have and in what they don’t have.

We need to understand that ruining life is not a solution. Stay alive and solve problems. Yet again, people differ. Not everyone can stay strong for longer period of time. Some give up and some make up. But we can at least do our part, teach them, explain them, and be with them.

Stay mentally and physically strong. You have made it and you will definitely make through this again. Spread positivity because you never know who is in need right now.

Namrata

Another Milestone Achieved: 500 Followers on WordPress

Hello My Wonderful Readers,

I am so happy to tell you all that today my blog (www.penofhearts.com) has achieved another milestone. You all will be glad to know that my blog has more than 500 WordPress followers now.

This was the message I received today in the morning. What a wonderful message to look at in the morning!!!! It made my day.

Currently, I have 515 followers on my blog with 6 email subscribers and 2 followers from social media.

I can’t express my feelings in words today. I am thrilled and overwhelmed. I am overwhelmed by the love and support shown my blog followers who are actually my friends now.

I am thankful to all my 515 followers who believe in me, who ignore my silly mistakes, and who encourage me everyday by their valuable comments on my posts.

I really have made some good friends on WordPress whose work are outstanding, motivating, and encouraging.

I learn everyday from my fellow bloggers. I feel that I am growing each day with my blog. I appreciate that you all are the part of my journey as a blogger.

I thank each one of you here. I am grateful to the Almighty for always being with me in any and every circumstances.

Please keep me blessing me like this. Keep spreading the happiness and positivity.

Namrata

« Older Entries Recent Entries »