Life is never meant to be like that.
Mixed feelings and mixed emotions are normal.
One day, you feel good. The other day, you feel bad.
It’s okay to have a bad day.
Sometimes, a moment makes you happy, and another makes you sad.
It’s natural. We all experience this. I often experience this.
Therefore, let’s prioritise our mental health this month and talk about different issues of mental health that looks small but has great impact on our health.
It’s okay to have a bad day.
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Well said.
Nikki–Thank you so much for this reminder. I know I certainly have my good days as well as my bad days. Today is one of those down days. Mother’s Day has always been difficult for me because I never had a mother who wanted anything to do with me. My biological mother gave me up when I was just a baby. I was then adopted at 2 years old by my half sister and she was an alcoholic who loved her alcohol and her sons, more than me. I was constantly talked down to, criticized, called horrible names, was reminded everyday just how much of a failure I was and was always told I would never amount to anything in life.
Despite being a mother myself, I don’t have that roll model in my life to seek advice and wisdom from. I don’t have that mother to tell happy Mother’s Day to. All I have are flashbacks from when I was growing up and all the agonizing, and dark memories that came with it. So with that said, today is one of those, ”I’m not okay, days.”
I cannot even imagine what you have been through. The only thing I would say is set a good example for your kids. That’s it. Trauma is the only thing that shouldn’t be passed from one generation to another. Take care.
Nikki–Thank you so very much for being understanding and supportive. I truly appreciate it.
I always make sure I am that mother to my girls that I never had. As far as setting an example, I’ve already done that and still do. I get compliments all the time from friends and family saying how respectful and caring they are to their elders and how well my husband and I have raised them. Since having kids, I have always strived to be that mother to them that I never had. I have also strived to break that toxic cycle that I was raised with. I wasn’t always the perfect mother, yes, I made mistakes, but in all reality, there is no such thing as the “perfect mother.” But I will say, I made damn sure my girls were raised with values, morals, respect, and integrity.
They didn’t always have everything they wanted (material wise) but they were shown love, compassion, kindness, support, respect, wisdom and guidance. I also made sure they were seen as well as heard. That’s more than I was ever shown growing up. In my time as a mother, I’ve learned that the most important things, when raising kids, is teaching them morals, values, showing them love, affection compassion, respect, wisdom, guidance and integrity; not buying their love with all sorts of materialistic things.
As the saying goes, when we as parents are dead and gone, they won’t remember all the material things they were given (those carry no value) The most important things that carry value and meaning is all the love, values, morals, integrity, wisdom, guidance, and all the memories we imprinted upon them, from childhood into adulthood. Those are the things they will always cherish most, after we pass from this world.
Absolutely, there is nothing like perfect mother or perfect parent. Children need our love and support, someone to rely on. That’s it.
You are doing your part so well. Thank you for sharing your journey with me.
Amen! I wholeheartedly agree 💯 Thank you so much Nikki. I truly appreciate your support and understanding, as well as all your encouragement. 💕
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