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Book Review: Everything Happens For A Reason And Other Lies That I’ve Loved by Kate Bowler

As the title of the book says “Everything Happen for a Reason and Other Lies That I’ve Loved”, it tries to find out the truth in the phrases that we hear on common basis. We, at some part of our lives have experienced this, people often say, we also sometimes, that everything happens for a reason. But is it always like this? What do you think about it? In this book, the author tries to explain us that at some point of time these are just lies, not facts. Not everything happens for a reason. If it does, who owes the explanation for whatever happens in our lives?

The motivational book “Everything Happens for a Reason and Other Lies That I’ve Loved” by Kate Bowler, is a good read that inspires the reader. The words straight comes from the heart and mind of a person who is suffering from cancer. The book is a journey of a cancer patient who is also a daughter, a wife and a mother who is longing to live for her child, see him grow everyday but doesn’t know whether she will be able to make it or not.

Nothing was broken yet that could not be fixed. But what gives the prosperity movement breadth and depth for many is its through accounting for the pain of life, and for the longing we have for restoration.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg: xvii, Preface)

I deserve what I get, I earn my keep and keep my share. In a world of fair, nothing clung to can ever slip away.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg: 8)

Like any other human being, the author, in her hard times, trying to find answers in the spiritual world. She, being an assistant professor at Duke Divinity School, student of prosperity gospel, looks for answers everywhere. Why is she suffering? What caused the suffering? Is it the past deeds or anything else?

In a spiritual world in which healing is a divine right, illness is a symptom of unconfessed sin – a symptom of a lack of forgiveness, unfaithfulness, unexamined attitudes or careless words. A suffering believer is a puzzle to be solved. What had caused this to happen?

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg: 16)

Spiritual laws offer an elegant solution to the problem of unfairness. They create a Newtonian universe in which the chaos of the world seems reducible to simple cause and effect.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg: 25)

I was trying everything and caring less about whether it made any sense. I just needed it to work.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg: 31)

As someone who has never had overly mushy feelings about babies, I have to say it was the most bizarre feeling I had ever had. It felt like something had pushed the reset button and my life had only begun. I should have asked for a birth certificate for myself.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg: 50)

This is what a new born mother feels after delivering a baby. She is in immense love with her child but her life feels like upside down. Her life feels like full of emotions for her child and her life. She has to balance everything around her child. Definitely it’s a rebirth of her also.

Live unburdened. Live free. Live without forevers that don’t always come.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg: 60)

I keep having the same unkind thought – I am preparing for death and everyone else is on Instagram. I know that’s not fair – that life is hard for everyone – but I sometimes feel like I’m the only one in the world who is dying.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg: 63)

With age we slowly lose our senses and even our pleasures, our parents and then our friends, preparing us for our own absence. An interesting thoughts.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg: 69)

What we gain with our age and what we lose are two different things. We gain maturity, sense of gratitude, feeling of completeness, we genuinely grow older in our thoughts. What we lose are people, we lose our parents, our friends, many times our kids, loss is big, but we live.

The world cannot be remade by the sheer force of love. A brutal world demands capitulation to what seems impossible – separation. Brokenness. An end without an ending.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:70)

The spring is trying to make everything new, but my world feels increasingly dark.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:114)

But they offered me this small bit of certainty, and I clung to it. When the feeling recede like the tides, they said, they will leave an imprint. I would somehow be marked by the presence of an unbidden God.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:122)

I can’t reconcile the way that the world is jolted by events that are wonderful and terrible, the gorgeous and the tragic. Except I am beginning to believe that these opposites do not cancel each other out.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:123)

GOD, we can feel Him, in happiness and in grief. We thank him when we feel obliged to Him for the blessings that He bestows on us. We also fight with Him, become sad from Him, ask questions for the grief and pain that we think He has given us. Like wise the author feels blessed for the son and the family she has but also questions Him for the intense grief that she has due to the colon cancer that has eventually changed her life completely.

The horror of cancer has made everything seem like it is painted in bright colors. I think the same thoughts again and again: Life is so beautiful. Life is so hard.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:123)

Sometimes this ability to live in the moment feels like a gift. My pain pain feels connected to the pain of others somehow, I notice the look of exhaustion on the young mom’s face at the grocery store and help her with her cart. I stop to talk to the homeless man sitting on the corner. I give money away more freely, less begrudgingly. I can see now how hard people work to keep it together, but the walls that keep their lives from falling apart are brittle.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:144)

God, I am walking to the edge of a cliff. Build me a bridge, I need to get to the other side.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:145)

It feels impossible to translate the kernel of truth: I’m not dying. I am not terminal. I am keeping vigil in the place of almost death. I stand in the in-between where everyone must pass, but so few can remain.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:147)

The world is a balance sheet. Subtract from one column, add to another, as if we could all agree to share pieces of this too-short, too-short, too-long life.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:149)

But I don’t want ice cream, I want a world where there is no need fo pediatric oncology, UNICEF, military budgets, or suicidal rails on the top floor of tall buildings. The world would drip with mercy. Thy kingdom come, I pray, and my heart aches. And my tongue trips over the rest. Thy will be done.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:151)

I failed to love what was present and decided to love what was possible instead. I must learn to live in ordinary time, but I don’t know how.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:156)

Plans are made. Plans come apart. New delights or tragedies pop up in their place. And nothing human or divine will map out this life, this life that has been more painful than I could have imagined. More beautiful than I could have imagined.

Kate Bowler (Everything Happens For A Reason, Pg:161)

A short list of what not to say and what to say to people suffering with terminal disease or intense pain is truly incredible. Through this book I got to learn how we often become judgmental and pass our comments without understanding the person who is in pain or completely lost due to sudden changes. We should be careful while choosing our words and framing sentences for people suffering with terminal illness because they do not need that sad look or our judgements. What they need is just a feeling that we are with them. They do not need sympathy, they need love, care and support.

The feeling of the author are real, intense, full of emotion, happiness and sadness. The book is not a sad story, it is a mixture of feelings, emotions, courage, breakdowns, etc. The story is about a family, how it fights from cancer, about the friends who stand by her friend in the crucial time. I bet, you will enjoy reading this autobiography. The book is a good read indeed.

Thank you for stopping by and reading 📖🙏🙏.

Reading a New Book

In this pandemic situation, what options we have been left with than to remain at home and stop the spread of the new Coronavirus? I don’t know whether this situation is going to worsen or get better. I don’t know when everything will come to normal. Yet, I don’t think things are getting normal until May last week.

Libraries are closed. I have finished reading 3 and a half books this month. I have started the last book planned for this month.

I have already read 15 pages from this book, Trust Me When I Lie by Benjamin Stevenson. I am finding this book very interesting, a suspense, thriller, a murder mystery I guess. Let’s see how this book turns up to be.

Thank you for stopping and reading by 🙏🏻🙏🏻.

Book Review: When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi

I completed reading this book in three days. You can read it faster than me ( I am a slow reader). I am writing this review today. I could have chosen to write tomorrow or day after tomorrow but I thought of writing the review today itself, 9th March 2020. Exactly today, 5 years ago the author of this book “When Breath Becomes Air” took his last breath.

What comes to your mind when you read the title of this book? When breath becomes air, and when does it happen? Yet obvious, when a person dies. When a person dies, he becomes a body.

I don’t know from where to start. How should I begin, with the author or with his wife (who wrote the epilogue)? The epilogue is so touching that I couldn’t control my tears. How strong was the author, how strong is his wife and how strong is the whole family? Is that we are born so strong or is it that the circumstances make us strong? I don’t know.

The writer of this book, Dr. Paul Kalanithi, was a neurosurgeon whose life changed drastically when he was diagnosed with Lung Cancer. His journey as a doctor and a patient holds you throughout his journey. His struggle to understand death and the true meaning of life brings him so close to death that he dies at a very early age.

The deep knowledge of the author in his subject is well evident in the book. His passion for Literature and Science makes this book a masterpiece in its own way. The book is an autobiography where the author writes his journey as a doctor who turns into a cancer patient, how he fights back everyday to prove himself as a neurosurgeon while devastated by his terminal illness.

It’s an amazing book to read where the author finds answer for various questions that we to ask in our lives at one time or the other. He asks about pain, he asks about sufferings, he asks about the true meaning of life, he asks about death, he asks about the purpose of life and death. He questions the existence of God. He tries to find the answers about life and death in Science and Literature.

I can’t deny that I loved this book but sometimes I felt scared when he mentioned the surgical processes, surgical instruments, as a doctor. His mention of some cancer patients and him being terribly suffering from cancer gives an intense pain to the reader too. I felt so connected to him when he described the pain and suffering of his patients, their families, etc. The reader can feel how terrible CANCER is and how it turns the life of any individual and the family members upside down in a moment.

At some point of time, I really felt depressed. Too much of cancer can depress anyone. Pain, sufferings, chemotherapy, mentions of cancer drugs are enough to cause depression in the reader. But what else you expect from one who is dying everyday?

Today, I also felt pity for the doctors who work so hard. Doctors who fight for their patients every day and night. Doctors who go for surgery for several hours.

I read the epilogue with tears rolling from my eyes continuously. I seriously don’t know how Lucy Kalanithi, the wife of the author got the courage to write the epilogue. Hats off to the wife who took care of her husband so well, allowed him to work as a neurosurgeon and complete his residency. Without the support of family nobody can achieve so much. I think, Lucy is way more stronger than Paul. I might be wrong, but this is my personal opinion.

Death is certain, as certain as birth is. We can’t deny this fact. We can avoid looking at it but it stares at us. Death is the truth that we feel hard to understand. Death is so real but who wants to die?

Paul Kalanithi, a dedicated neurosurgeon, a hard working doctor, a passionate scientist, a writer, an avid reader, and a fantastic human being on the whole. The way he writes the book is so raw, so painful and so touching.

You will feel heavy hearted while reading this book. You might feel bad and depressed while reading this book. Let’s accept that death will come one day to everyone of us. Nobody is immortal. We can’t ignore death. Then what is important? The importance is how we accept it. How should we live our lives everyday is more important. It’s important to accept the truth and live our lives the way we want to live. Keep no grudges, keep living and have faith.

Read this book if you want to experience death so closely. Read this book only if you can control your emotions until the end. Read this book for a tragic story. Read this book for a doctor-patient transformation. Read this book for an emotional and heartfelt epilogue that drives the reader intensely.

If you have already read this book, please share your feedbacks with me. Please let me know how you liked this book. Also, let me know whether you liked this review or not. Thank you for stopping by and reading 🙏🙏.

Books to Read in March 2020

Hello Readers, this is the first day of March 2020 and I have prepared a book list to read this month. As I am a slow reader, I thought of reading 5 books in a month. This is my reading challenge for myself. I have chosen random books from the public library 📚 nearby.

I know reading is a good habit and I am trying to inculcate this habit in myself. Seeing me reading, my kids have also started reading books 📚 on a regular basis. They also pick books from library and enjoy selecting and reading books.

Here I am listing the books that I am going to read this month and I will also share the reviews of these books in my upcoming posts.

This is the first book that I will be reading. I found the reviews for this book very interesting so I thought of picking this book. I am sharing few reviews here for you all.

“(Bowler) delivers raw emotion, realistic description, and candid assessments…….An inspiring story of finding faith— in God, in family, and in oneself—while the walking close to the Valley of the Shadow of Death.”

— Kirkus Reviews

“This is a beautifully written, intelligent, soulful book, necessary reading for all of us who long to walk faithfully and honestly through the darkest and most desolate of seasons.”

— Shauna Niequist, New York Times bestselling author of Present Over Perfect

I found the title of this book quite interesting. The title was so compelling that I couldn’t resist myself from picking up this book. I mean how can we trust anyone when he is lying? Strange.

“Clever as hell and as timely as it gets, this is definitely one of the must-reader thrillers of the season.”

— J.P. Smith, author of The Drowning and If She Were Dead

“An outstanding debut—confident, compelling, with a surprise around every corner. I loved it.”

— Jane Harper, New York Times bestselling author of The Day

“The Little Prince” the title and the cover of the book looks as if this book is for kids or teenagers. This is my first translated book that I am going to read. This book is a English translated version of Le Petit Prince in French.

I have a strong connection with air, I think. The topic of my Ph.D. research work was also “Air”. So this was a great pick up for me. Second thing that forced me to pick up this book was the reviews. The author of this book is no more. I was so sad when I got to know this. Let me share some reviews with you.

“Rattling, heartbreaking, and ultimately beautiful, the too-young Dr. Kalanithi’s memoir is proof that the dying are the one who have the most to teach us about life.”

—Atul Gawande

“Thanks to When Breath Becomes Air, those of us who never met Paul Kalanithi will both mourn his death and benefit from his life. This is one of a handful of books I consider to be a universal donor—I would recommend it to anyone, everyone.”

— Ann Patchett

Whenever I pick books, one non-fiction book is a compulsion. I don’t know why, but this the way I am. I like reading non-fiction books to keep myself up to date. I think we should read non-fiction books to as they provide knowledge to us.

“Green Planet…How Plants Keep the Earth Alive” is a book of Environmental Science. I love reading such books. I hope this book will help me coming close to nature. Here are the reviews.

“If you are not convinced of the critical value of plants to people, you will be after reading Stanley Rice’s Green Planet. Rice’s expertise, paired with his engaging style, awakens readers to the importance of environmental services provided by plants.”

— Sir Ghillean Prance FRS, Scientific Director, The Eden Project

“Stanley Rice writes with charm and clarity. Not since Corner’s Life of Plants has there been a contestant for this role in the world of scientific publishing about plants for general readers.”

— Steward T.A. Pickett, Distinguished Senior Scientist and Project Director, Cary Institute of Ecosystem Studies

I will be happy to know if anyone of you have read any of these books. Please share with me if you have done so. I hope this month will be a month full of joy, happiness, peace and good health for all of us. Wishing you all a happy month ahead.

Thank you all 🙏🏻🙏🏻.

Book Review: Under the Mistletoe by Tracie Puckett

Under the Mistletoe: Goodread

About the Author: Tracie Puckett

This is the second book from the series Webster Grove. This book is as amazing as the first novel. This book has everything love, romance, drama and suspense. I read the whole book at a stretch. I got hooked up with the book. The story is amazing with so many new characters. The story has twists and turns and holds the reader to think what comes next.

I loved the romance between Steph and Alex. Steph’s poem and the response by Alexander Rivera was also awesome. My favorite part of the whole novel was Steph’s poem. It was simple yet full of emotions.

Alex is a strong character, a strict teacher and a silent lover. Steph is also a strong personality and deeply in love with her teacher, Alex. The bond between Alex and Steph is amazing, loving, and adorable. Alex and Steph both are cute.

Calvin is the future step-dad of Steph and fiancée of Caroline (Steph’s mother). The relationship between Calvin and Steph is very sweet. They share a special bond. Calvin understands Steph well. He cares for Steph.

Nick and Issac are new neighbors of Steph. Nick also goes to the same high school as Steph. Both are the students of the English teacher, Alexander Rivera. Steph is suspicious about the behavior of Nick. Nick knows more about Steph than her other friends.

There is a story why Alex hates Christmas and his hatred is justifiable. He lost his parents on Christmas many years ago but is still in trauma. The change in the mood of Alex as Christmas approaches is noticed by his student Steph. Steph also has never celebrated Christmas as her mother Caroline was never interested in celebrating festivals and holidays.

At last I would say that I almost loved every character of this book.. Every character has its role in the story and are well plotted and described. It is nice to see the relationship between all the characters.

Read this book if you are looking for a simple, easy to read, cute love story. I am sure you will love this book as much as I do. The author has done a brilliant work and you will enjoy reading it. This book is available on kindle, goodreads and apple’s iBook. I highly recommend this book.

I am looking forward to read the 3rd book of the series. I am hoping that 3rd book will also be like the this one. Happy reading!!!

Book Review : What the Wind Knows?

A romantic love story that shows that love has no boundaries. Even time can’t be a barrier in love.

I quote “In Love Time is Not a Barrier” – Amy Harmon.

This was my first book of Amy Harmon and I really loved it. It is a romantic love story ❤️ that crosses the time to find love and creates a magic that is spelled in the air. The surroundings, people, streets, trees, houses, lake and even the wind is the witness of love between Thomas Smith and Ann Gallagher.

The book holds the reader. I never wanted to keep the book down. It keeps you thinking about the story even when you are not reading it.

The story is all plotted in New York, The USA and Cities of Ireland such as Sligo and Dublin. The book revolves around the independence movements in Ireland 🇮🇪 in early 19’s.

It’s a good read if you like love stories. I enjoyed reading the book and looking forward to reading another book of the same author.

Happy Reading 📖.

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